Adult Children of Alcoholics--Telling Guilt to F*** Off

As adult children of alcoholics as well as grandchildren of alcoholics, we have been programmed to live outside of ourselves like feathers caught up in other people's wind storms. Because we never knew when the next embarrassing, humiliating, verbal, or physical attack was going to erupt, we have had to become super hyper-vigilant. Because our environments were unpredictable--as children we never had the opportunity to play in a carefree sense. There was always, always, always something we had to be worried about. If ever we did drop our guard, there were certainly times we wish we hadn't.

Along with hyper-vigilant--out of the body type of life experiences, we have also grown ridiculously accustomed to the pangs of guilt. Because often we felt ashamed of our families, our homes as well as the lack of love or nurturing we received from our self absorbed caretakers, often times guilt becomes one of those emotions we have a difficult time detaching from as adults.

One of the mental experiments I embraced while on the road back to me, was the way I learned to confront guilt in my mind, whenever I felt it washing over my emotional body. Growing up in Queens, New York certainly played a part in how I decided to deal with the emotions guilt and shame. My hope is perhaps it may help you as well.

Whenever you notice guilt or shame beginning to well up inside of you--I would like you to recognize the emotions--then detach from the emotions--and as if you were telling a relative that has really perturbed you your entire life--in your mind--see yourself telling guilt and shame to F*** OFF!

Let me know how this works for you...it has done wonders for me in my own life...

Once I realized the guilt and shame I was carrying around wasn't even mine, but instead was the result of other people's alcoholism--it became much easier for me to let them go--and to more easily learn to love my higher Self.

Namaste...

I love you all..

We are all one--even those unconscious amongst us...

Lisa