Codependent; You Were Raised By An Emotional Manipulator

As a seeker of absolute truth--my thirst for knowledge never fails.

Each and every new day I learn more about this thing called 'codependency'.

For anyone struggling to wrap their tattered minds around how and why codependency and even narcissism is created, I highly recommend the work of Ross Rosenberg.

His explanations of this complex emotional predisposition is clear and easy to digest, although one might need to listen to his speeches time and time again--as there is so much to absorb--especially when you realize he is speaking to YOU about YOU.

He believes--and I agree--that codependency and even narcissism is directly related to parenting.

If a child was born to an emotional manipulator (EmM), then that child learned very early on how to gratify his/her parents, and as early as infancy. Even infants are able to comprehend that when they smile--that pleases mother or father.

The emotionally manipulative parent--expects the child to conform--for the sake of the parents egotistical needs. And if the child has learned that their parent's love and approval is conditional, that child will grow into a future codependent and seek a future EmM partner.

The attraction will feel so intense--that the pleasure centers in the codependents brain will light up--and cause the codependent become intoxicated--and thus--will presume that this attraction must be love.

In fact--it is merely his/her being--including cellular memory--feeling drawn to that which it recognizes as love--which is representative of whatever that child's experience of parental love is--good or bad.

If the child conformed to the EmM parent--the child will develop patterns of thought and behavior that later on are recognized as 'codependency--or neediness'.

If the child was a non-conformist--if the child did not conform to the EmM--and if the child was punished because of his/her lack of conforming--and if the child was compared to other siblings because of his/her lack of conforming--the child will flee into him/herself emotionally--build emotional walls--because they have accumulated guilt and shame--and do not trust.

Willful children have not learned how to please parents--this child must learn to cope--to learn how to buffer his/her ideas of not being worth loving.

According to RR he believes that sometimes the child who was NOT outwardly abused--is more damaged than a child who has suffered outward abuse--because the child then feels completely unworthy of any love, affection, or nurturing.

The good news is dear ones--these unconscious beliefs can be healed--and released.

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