By Lisa A. Romano, Mon, 07/14/2014 - 01:00
So many of us adult children of alcoholics are wounded in places that most people will never understand. If you are a being who grew up knowing they were loved--you more than likely could never understand the...
By Lisa A. Romano, Sat, 07/05/2014 - 01:00
On the road of my recovery there have been many mind bending obstacles I have had to learn to intellectually as well as emotionally conquer. Because healing codependency created through the programming my once blank slate of a mind once was as a child--as an adult--I had no way of truly grasping the fact that the thoughts and emotions I was reacting to as...
By Lisa A. Romano, Thu, 07/03/2014 - 01:00
This post is dedicated to Vladmir, a loyal reader and ACoA in Russia;
Yes Vladimir, it is up to our parents to love us unconditionally so that we the innocent beings are able to integrate mind, body and soul--but when we are born to people who are unaware they themselves have a self--and instead are reactive--there is no way they...
By Lisa A. Romano, Wed, 07/02/2014 - 01:00
While the term 'codependency' may be clouded with misunderstandings, it is quite an epidemic. In fact, it is a worldwide epidemic, although rarely does the common man stop to ponder such deep thinking thoughts.
By common man, I am referring to those amongst us who have forgotten or perhaps have never learned to think.
Codependency is a programmed condition that is rooted in...
By Lisa A. Romano, Mon, 06/30/2014 - 01:00
If you are codependent--it is possible to awaken.
You and I have been brainwashed--into believing--we are NOT enough.
Why?
Because...
By Lisa A. Romano, Thu, 06/26/2014 - 01:00
Codependency is everywhere. It is in our media, our newspapers, and on our airwaves. In obvious as well as covert ways we as a people are being brainwashed to worry more about what others think about us than what we think about ourselves. In addition, we are bombarded with...
By Lisa A. Romano, Sun, 06/22/2014 - 01:00
When I was going through my recovery process, initially I attended 12 step programs to help me stay aware. At first I thought this was a really good idea, but the more meetings I attended the more I realized they were not for me.
Although I do firmly believe some people benefit tremendously from 12 step meetings, there are those of us who...
By Lisa A. Romano, Fri, 06/20/2014 - 01:00
As adult children of alcoholics as well as grandchildren of alcoholics, we have been programmed to live outside of ourselves like feathers caught up in other people's wind storms. Because we never knew when the next embarrassing, humiliating, verbal, or physical attack was going to erupt, we have had to become...
By Lisa A. Romano, Fri, 06/13/2014 - 01:00
If you are an adult child from a dysfunctional home, whether the tool of dysfunction used was alcohol, emotional manipulation, guilt, shame or physical or sexual abuse--as and adult today, you may have...
By Lisa A. Romano, Sat, 06/07/2014 - 01:00
For the bulk of my life I was confused about where I stood in relation to others. My very strict Roman Catholic upbringing had me feeling cursed from day one. Born a sinner I (or so I was told) my tiny soul felt as if love was something I needed to prove myself worthy of. On days when I hoped God was napping, I would...
